I would recommend that you cultivate the following attitudes:

Openness

Maintain an open mind. If you have not tried this before, you will find that it will require you to see things from a different perspective than you were used to. Changing your old beliefs into something new will not be an easy task if you are closed to the ideas being imparted here.

If you want to have what you never had,

then you must do what you've never done.

Because if you only do what you've always been doing,

You will only have what you've always been having...

- anonymous

Relax

Everything will come to you in time. It may not be at the moment you thought you want it, but it will come. Relax and never go against the flow. Worrying and trying to force things will not speed things up, rather it will slow you down. The effort it will take to swim AGAINST the flow of the river is greater than the effort it will take to swim WITH the flow of the river.

Faith

Faith is believing what we cannot see - Claude M. Bristol, The Magic of Believing

It is not seeing is believing, it is believing is seeing.

The thing always happens that you really believe in; and the belief in a thing makes it happen. ~ Frank Lloyd Wright

Deep Love For Yourself

It does not mean becoming narcissistic or egotistic. It is knowing that no matter what the circumstances in your life right now, it will not make you any less than another person. It is only when you love yourself that you will learn to accept and embrace joy, love, prosperity, and all the wonderful gifts that you are meant to receive. It is when you see magic...

"You are a child of the universe,

no less than the tree and stars;

you have a right to be here." - Max Erhmann, Desiderata

Becoming attached to people, things and situations is part of the conditioning of almost every human being. Attachment develops when we identify with a person or thing and begin to believe that we need this for our happiness. But attachment is not love. In its most extreme manifestation the self will do anything to keep the object of its attachment within its sphere of influence and control. An addiction to any person or thing leads to behaviours such as manipulation, abuse and even violence. In its milder form, attachment is manifested as clinging, believing that the self is enhanced by the object of desire. Grief, rage or depression most often follows if loss of the object occurs.

Attachment is so engrained in our culture that we take it as a normal way to relate. It permeates our songs, the films we watch, and the ideals of dependent coupledom that many are encouraged to emulate. Loving another and sharing with another, appreciating an object or enjoying a situation - all can be deeply and fully experienced. The difference however between love and attachment is in the core element of freedom. Love never restricts the free will of another, nor clings to any person. Being attached holds the mistaken belief that the beloved in some way enhances the sense of self. Fear and lack are the driving forces behind attachment.

Being non-attached does not mean that you do not relate deeply to other people or that you do not enjoy life. Being non-attached means that you have faced the ultimate illusion that anything in physical form will save you or give you constant happiness. Therefore you can enjoy the riches and beauty of life without clinging to anything or any person to give you a false sense of security or identity. Thus there is an awakening from illusion. There is a realisation that we are alone in physical form, and that change and impermanence are the very basis of physical life. Yet by living in the moment we are opening to a new consciousness where we can feel our spiritual connection to all other beings.

In contrast to attachment, true love springs from the divine source within. Nothing can ever be added or taken away from an aware being. Therefore love does not seek to possess and capture. Love can only display its deepest nature by freely flowing and connecting in light with all other beings.

Moving from Attachment to Love
We can move from attachment to love in our relationships when we gain insight and understanding into the reasons we cling to a particular person or situation. With insight and understanding comes awareness into our thought patterns, emotions, motivations and behaviours. Only then can we choose to let go of mistaken beliefs and ways of living that we once accepted as being natural and desirable.

By working through the following questions you may gain some insight and understanding as to how and why attachments form. Go into the stillness that is deep within to inquire into these questions.

* Is there someone or some situation that you are clinging to and deeply attached to?
* What is it you need from this person or situation?
* What would you do and feel if this person wanted to leave you, or if a particular situation you are attached to ended?
* Could you truly let this person or situation completely go? In the case of a person, could you still feel love for the person who has left you?

Now take a moment to look deep inside yourself. How can you begin to bring love and joy into your own life? What can you do to treat yourself as you would a beloved? Make a list of any activities that come to mind.

Connecting with Source
No person, thing or situation is the source of your happiness. Nothing outside of yourself can fill the emptiness and aloneness that we all sometimes feel. There is something deep within that you need to connect with, to rely upon, to gain wisdom and inspiration from. This is the divine source that is your true nature. There is little to be gained in seeking love or approval from others. Being loved by another is a gift that we have nothing to do with. We cannot create or control another's love.

Delighting in time spent and moments shared with people we love, enjoying things we appreciate in life, feeling content and fulfilled in particular situations such as fulfilling work, are all beautiful experiences. But we need to realise that we are all free spirits, passing through this world, seeking to overcome the limitations of our conditioning and to develop our capacity to love. Learning to love in freedom, and practising non-attachment in this passing physical world are perhaps the biggest steps we can take towards growth in awareness.

Lucy Costigan (email) is an Irish author and therapist. The above is an excerpt from her book: Course in Consciousness, iUniverse, 2005.

"Hey, darlin'. Do you want to go waterskiin'?" I was lying on a beach in Barbados, recovering from the frivolity of the night before. Squinting up at the Bejan man who was barely keeping the sun out of my eyes, I said, "Yes, please." Waterskiing was something I had promised myself I would try on this holiday.

In the shallow blue waters, the "look-out" helped me into the skis and then handed me the rope pull. "Jost sit back in de water, darlin'," he instructed.

No problem, mon, I thought. But as the boat pulled away, I leaned backwards, and fell. We tried again. I fell forwards. We tried again. I fell sideways.

After five attempts, the look-out was getting impatient. "Listen, darlin'," he said as he leaned over the back of the boat, "dis am de last time." He saw my disappointment and softened. "All you have to do is lean back in de water and let de boat do de work for you."

So I relaxed into the movement and rhythm of the boat and let it pull me. Years later, as a facilitator of intuitive development, I realize that we all have a boat pulling us through life. It's called intuition. When we just relax into life and allow our intuitive senses to take us where we need to go, it works.

The following are ten more reasons for letting our intuition pull us:

1. Intuition offers us the space to relax into the truth.
2. Intuition allows us to rely on our own senses of what is right, rather than other people's opinions. And people always have opinions.
3. Intuition guides us towards or away from positive or negative situations.
4. Intuition empowers us to take a current reality and project it into the future, just like the weatherman. But if we don't like what we see, we have the power to change direction.
5. Intuition gives us the ability to rise above a situation and see the funny side of it.
6. Intuition speaks to us constantly from a higher, more intelligent vibration.
7. Intuition lets us know we are never alone.
8. Intuition asks us to trust what we feel, not what we see.
9. Intuition gives us permission to sense, not just to think.
10. Intuition provides all-knowing wisdom and is always for our highest good.

On the last attempt of water-skiing, I not only stayed upright but did a wide figure of eight and glided gracefully back onto the beach. To my surprise I was met with a hoard of admiring spectators offering me congratulatory cocktails. I declined the drinks but appreciated the lesson. By not trying so hard and just relaxing and letting "de boat" do the work for me, I had overcome my fears.

Natasha J. Rosewood is an international Psychic Coach and Spirit Healer, Author of "Aaagh! I Think I'm Psychic (And You Can Be Too)," host of the TV show Wake Up! Body, Mind, and Spirit, and a facilitator of numerous workshops and seminars. Visit Natasha online at Natasha Psychic.com.

Desiderata

Desiderata means "the things you desire"

Go placidly amid the noise and haste,
and remember what peace there may be in silence.

Meditate. Take some time to block away the constant chatter in your mind. There are always thoughts passing through it about so many things at the same time. These are haphazard thoughts and will cause needless worries and the inability to concentrate. Relax, release your worries even for just 30 minutes and think about one single positive thought. If you can, maintain silence "in" there. You will find it refreshing. You will feel renewed and revitalized. There is nothing to compare with the feelings of finding solace within your mind. There is perfection in there. Everything is as you wish them to and as you will them to be.

As far as possible without surrender
be on good terms with all persons.

Do not bear grudges. If you do, you are allowing other persons to take control of your life. Every time you see them you are forced to do something you wouldn't have done. They can make you angry and ruin your day. Forgive and be free. Whatever that person did that you considered wrong will never be right even if you hate him/her for a very long time. Your life is in your hand, you are powerful beyond comprehension, take charge or others will do it for you. Most of all forgive yourself.

Speak your truth quietly and clearly;
and listen to others.
even the dull and the ignorant;
they too have their story.

Affirm every chance you get. Repetition is the key to make changes and to manifest your desires. Say positive things about yourself and about the things you want. Say it loud and clear for yourself to hear. And do not waste your words on gossips and negative observations. Speak only what you truly mean. Keep your promises and never promise what you can't keep. Listen and hear other people. There are messages for you everywhere. Messages that will lead you towards the fulfillment of your goals. People seemingly not connected to you may have the key to the doors you want to open. So be receptive.

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